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What if you stopped looking for a “soul mate” and started looking for a “sole mate”—someone who will live out with you the great purpose of God? What if dating isn’t about finding “the one” but making a wise choice so you can better serve the One who loves you most? What if God didn’t design relationships to make you happy but to make you holy?
 
In The Sacred Search, Gary Thomas will transform the way you look at romantic relationships. Whether you are single, dating, or engaged, Gary’s unique perspective on dating will prepare you for a satisfying, spiritually enriching marriage even before you walk down the aisle. As Gary reminds us, a good marriage is not something you find—it’s something you make.

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"Gary Thomas looks at the heart of a subject that many consider him an expert on—successful marriage. Anyone who is dating, engaged, or hopes to be one day needs to read this book!"
-- Ed Young

"Singles, pay attention. Gary knows marriage, and is eager to help those of us desiring marriage get there with confidence and grace."
-- Lisa Anderson

"Gary Thomas debunks the mythical search for a soul mate to help you choose a ''sole-mate''—someone who will lay down their life in faithful love. This biblically based book is for anyone who wants to be wise in their pursuit of a spouse."
-- Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott

"Gary creates a compelling argument that shifts the believer''s view of relationships, dating, and marriage to focus on something greater. I''m thankful Gary has created this resource."
-- Joy Eggerichs

" The Sacred Search will help those who desire marriage to pursue it in a manner that deepens their faith, honors God, and blesses their future spouse."
-- Jim Daly

"Marriages are falling apart all around us and I believe Gary Thomas has just gone straight to the root. Gary just built a map to help you see through the emotion and infatuation to God''s heart for dating and marriage."
-- Jennie Allen

"Our culture is obsessed with compatibility and chemistry. However, in relationship formation character always trumps chemistry. The Sacred Search is a gut check for anyone considering, delaying, or even pursuing marriage."
-- Ted Cunningham

" Why should I get married? could be the most important questions Milennials are asking. Gary Thomas helps this generation navigate the why in a Christ-honoring way."
-- Esther Fleece

"Filled with questions to make you think and teaching that will bring ''aha'' moments, this book is a must read for everyone considering marriage. I highly recommend it to you—I wish I''d had it when I was single!"
-- Linda Dillow

"Gary Thomas dismantles contemporary philosophies on love, sexuality, and marital union by offering strong arguments for why they have not been successful. His appeal to a kingdom-first perspective gives both hope and healing for a generation in desperate need of a fresh and Christ-centered understanding of God''s plan for marriage. This book is a must-read before anyone says ''I do.''"
-- Michelle Anthony

From the Back Cover

What if being in love isn’t a good enough reason to get married?

What if dating isn’t about finding “the one” but about serving the One who lovesyou most?


Don’t Get Married Until You Read This Book.
 
In  The Sacred Search, Gary Thomas challenges you to think beyond finding a “soul mate” and to look for a “sole mate”—someone who will walk with you on your spiritual journey. After all, if you don’t know why to marry, you won’t know who to marry.  The Sacred Search casts a vision for building a relationship arounda shared spiritual mission—and making a marriage with eternity at its heart.

About the Author

Gary Thomas is writer-in-residence at Second Baptist Church in Houston, a frequent guest on Focus on the Family and FamilyLife Today, and a popular speaker around the world. His award-winning books have been translated into a dozen languages and sold hundreds of thousands copies. Thomas and his wife have three children.

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Some of the finest pre-marital advice you will ever receive!
Reviewed in the United States on March 19, 2016
This book is written to singles contemplating marriage, to a good partner! It is written by a Christian husband and father using principles from the Bible as a guide. WHAT READERS CAN LEARN FROM THIS BOOK 1. If you seek first God''s kingdom and His... See more
This book is written to singles contemplating marriage, to a good partner! It is written by a Christian husband and father using principles from the Bible as a guide.

WHAT READERS CAN LEARN FROM THIS BOOK

1. If you seek first God''s kingdom and His righteousness (Matthew 6:33) and let this principle undergird your decision regarding whom you choose to marry and refuse to compromise on that, you will increase the likelihood of a much more fulfilling, spiritually enriching, and overall more satisfying marriage.

2. Being "in love" is not a reliable criterion for marrying someone. Women are more likely to experience romantic love with dominant men, even though dominant men typically demonstrate less ability to express the kind of companionship, relational skills, and emotional attachment that women ultimately desire in a lifelong mate. If you simply follow your feelings, you are more likely fall in love with a guy who will thrill you for twelve to eighteen months as a boyfriend and then frustrate you for five to six decades as a husband.

3. The average life span of infatuation is two years. The author recommends a couple not get engaged less than one year before meeting because infatuation has to run its course in order to really get to know a person, including his or her weaknesses, before getting married. Discerning a person''s true character, values, and suitability for marriage is hard work that takes time, counsel, and a healthy dose of skepticism. Brain scans of people together for 28 months showed a more realistic view of their partner than those together for 8 months.

4. Our culture embraces the mistaken notion that there is only one specific person who can complete us, and we will know who that person is by the intense feelings we have. Conversely, the Bible does not teach that there is only one right person for you. Instead, it teaches that there are wise and unwise choices, and that a man should search for a woman of virtuous character (Proverbs 31:10). Desirable traits include (but are not limited to) industriousness (31:13, 19, 22), compassion for others (31:20), a good reputation (31:28, 29, 31), and, most importantly, having reverence for the Lord (31:30). Most married Christian women desire their husbands to be godly, to have a good sense of humor, to be an involved dad, and to have a strong work ethic, among other traits.

5. A single person should become involved in social situations where they are more likely to meet a qualified marriage partner, such as church, work, or introductions through family and friends.

6. Relationships are unstable when they are based upon (6.1) romantic idealism, (6.2) physical attraction, or (6.3) domination of one by the other. (6.1) If you''re a romantic idealist, you''re going to become very disappointed when your partner focuses on his business or hobby. (6.2) A marriage based primarily on mutual physical attraction is a shaky foundation, because marriage is about growing old together more than it is about being young together. A passionate partnership can seem intimately intense and satisfying when two people enjoy it, and suffocating when just one of them wants it. (6.3) Some people become interested in a relationship only when they are terrorized by or are terrorizing their partner, for reasons often related to past wounds and bent personalities. These couples fight, argue, make each other miserable and afraid, and may even have vigorous makeup sex. Exhausted and spent, they peacefully coexist for another short season until routine sets in and they start the horror cycle all over again. These people need to get healed before they get married.

7. The author believes you should never marry a person who is highly arrogant, is unwilling to forgive, or expresses anger with physical violence.

8. A complementarian marriage is one in which the husband leads by being a loving servant (Ephesians 5:22-32).

9. Compatibility is about having the most important things in common. Prior to marriage, dating couples should respect and appreciate their partner''s personality and character. Morally, the Bible prohibits sex outside marriage (I Corinthians 6:15-20). Neuro-chemically, sex before marriage bonds two people through the outpouring of oxytocin before they can properly test and evaluate each other''s character. Sexual intimacy will cloud a person''s judgment about their partner. If they see something about their partner''s behavior or character that gives them pause, they will be inclined to continue with the relationship because of their sexual bond

10. Design some dates specifically to reveal each other''s character. Going to the movies, biking through the park, and eating out may produce a certain level of affection, but it doesn''t tell you how a man would face a medical crisis, what kind of courage a woman has, what values each person lives by, or what spiritual pursuit drives the other person. You can find out your date''s true character by paying attention to how he or she treats people.

11. Pornography is destructive because it teaches wrong information about women, that they like to do certain things and act in certain ways that they really do not. Porn trains men to bond with the images of many women''s bodies in general, but not to bond with one woman (as a whole person) in particular.

12. Never marry someone just because you have been having sex with him or her, or because you feel sorry for that person, or because you want your search for a marriage partner to be over.
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LUCIA H. JONES
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Eye opening
Reviewed in the United States on May 21, 2017
This book was suggested to me as the best time. I was in a relationship for a year and a half. Engaged, looking at houses, already bought my dress but was not feeling the excitement a bride should feel. There were red flags but I thought surely our love will overcome. 5... See more
This book was suggested to me as the best time. I was in a relationship for a year and a half. Engaged, looking at houses, already bought my dress but was not feeling the excitement a bride should feel. There were red flags but I thought surely our love will overcome. 5 months before the wedding. I called it of as I began to read the book.within two weeks he was already dating someone else. I was hurt at how quickly I was replaced but relieved that I didn''t marry him. Today marks a yr since the breakup and I finally sat down and finished the book. My life is fuller because I learned not just from the relationship and what God c showed me but I learned from this book as well...I recommended it to ask my single and dating friends.. God bless
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C. Beese
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Intended to scare you straight
Reviewed in the United States on June 24, 2019
My impression is that Thomas wants to scare christian couples into long-term, platonic dating. There are attributes of that mindset that are valuable, but I think this book''s specific track can lead to more frustration and fear than deep, meaningful relationships.... See more
My impression is that Thomas wants to scare christian couples into long-term, platonic dating. There are attributes of that mindset that are valuable, but I think this book''s specific track can lead to more frustration and fear than deep, meaningful relationships.

He raises good points about what to look for in someone, and gives the reader a good reason to leave a relationship; but never does anything to support good relationships in his narratives. It stoked my personal fears about relationships, without ever reassuring me that I could make a ''good'' choice. It told me to mistrust my emotions, but never told me when I could start ''listening'' to them again. It told me to test potential partners, but never told me how to make an intelligent choice.

Instead, he leaves it to the reader to focus on his questions at the end of each chapter (the real value in the book) to talk through complex problems with the person they''re dating. These questions are tough but manageable, and are intended to lead towards a better understanding of who a person is despite the deep infatuation of an early relationship. However, they can contrast deeply in terms of their optimism compared to the negative narratives.

Is this a healthy book to read? I''m not sure.

Is it good for someone struggling in a relationship? Probably.

Are his questions authentic? They seem to be.

Should you read it? Well... personally, I think there are probably better books out there about how to approach new relationships.
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Dont get your hopes up - This guide does not work.
Reviewed in the United States on January 26, 2019
He says being in love is not important and that you should choose your mate based upon if you two can build the kingdom together citing ''Seek first the Kingdom and all these things will be added unto you." I did just that. I''m a female who was told by God to marry a man... See more
He says being in love is not important and that you should choose your mate based upon if you two can build the kingdom together citing ''Seek first the Kingdom and all these things will be added unto you." I did just that. I''m a female who was told by God to marry a man whom I just met. He also was told this. There was zero attraction. He chased me for over a year. We met at church and we both realized we could build the kingdom together. Everyone stated it was ''God''s will'' for us to get married. We dated for 3.5 years. I was not in love with him when we got married but I ''knew and trusted God'' with all of my heart that this was His will and His timing came true. This man left me during the honeymoon and later we were separated for 7 months and then divorced a year later. I saved myself for my husband. Biggest lesson: This book is false. Just because you and others hear a voice say ''this is the man I want you to marry'' and he does too, and you both have everything in common, serve Christ''s kingdom together, and have great love for each other does not mean he wont leave you at the altar or months later turn to sin and/or devastate you.
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Roy
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I recommend it for singles
Reviewed in the United States on May 18, 2018
This book has blessed my soul in so many ways. It was a gift to me from my son, 18 at the time, and being a single Christian that was currently back in the rat race of dating, this book has caused me to "pump the breaks" and to get and put things into its proper... See more
This book has blessed my soul in so many ways. It was a gift to me from my son, 18 at the time, and being a single Christian that was currently back in the rat race of dating, this book has caused me to "pump the breaks" and to get and put things into its proper perspective. I don''t have many conversations with friends, family or stranger before this book is mentioned. I recommend it for singles, parents of teens, youth ministers, counselors, and even some married folk... Unfortunately, I feel Gary Thomas should send me royalties...not because I''ve promote this wonderful book to nearly everyone that I come in conversation with, but because it seems like he merely changed the names in several of the examples mentioned when he could''ve just said my name for a ton of the examples... Thank you Gary for sharing...I only wish you could''ve written it 30 years ago but your book has blessed several lives in my family... I will be using this book in my church life group that I lead.
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Brett
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Not your typical Christian dating advice book
Reviewed in the United States on February 4, 2016
Trying to find a book of real substance in the Christian Living section at the bookstore can be more challenging than finding a Young Adult novel that doesn’t include a post-dystopian, star-crossed, vampire couple dying from cancer. When my eyes fell upon The... See more
Trying to find a book of real substance in the Christian Living section at the bookstore can be more challenging than finding a Young Adult novel that doesn’t include a post-dystopian, star-crossed, vampire couple dying from cancer.

When my eyes fell upon The Sacred Search by Gary Thomas my initial reaction was, “Oh, fantastic. Another Christian dating advice book. I swear if I hear the word courtship one more time I will become a eunuch!” Okay, maybe not.

But seriously, I’ve read dozens of Christian dating books and very few have ever made much of an impact. Many of them lack real depth and are often very “me” focused. I was ready to move on to another shelf when a couple things caught my eye about this one.

First off, I’m a big fan of the author, Gary Thomas. If you’re unfamiliar with Thomas, he’s penned many thoughtful books on marriage, parenting, and spiritual formation. Second, the tagline intrigued me, “What if it’s not about who you marry, but why?” I knew I had to give it a read.


Thomas charitably dispels a lot of the common myths of Christian dating and marriage. He gives thoughtful, practical advice for the “sacred search” while never losing focus of the bigger picture which he believes is summed up perfectly in Matthew 6:33, “Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.”

In addition to be a husband and father for many years, Thomas has counseled countless couples, and unfortunately, watched many of them end in divorce. While there’s no exact formula to avoid divorce, he points out the common pitfalls people stumble into when selecting a spouse.

His tone is always candid, direct, and conversational. His wisdom and maturity shines through in way that many other authors lack. And his advice is useful no matter where you currently are in life - single, in a relationship, or already married.

Some of my favorite chapters included:

The Religious Romance Lottery

“…God will bring the right person to me at the right time. I’ll just sit back and wait” Yeah. Right. Because sitting around is usually the best way to guarantee something amazing will happen in your life.

For some reason we think that it’s different with relationships and I’ll admit that I have been guilty of the same logic. But Thomas encourages readers to look beyond praying and waiting. Start living with intention, walk towards the music, and pursue love.

Soul Mate or Sole Mate?

I feel this one ties closely to the idea of same thought as Romance Lottery. Many people believe there is the “One” person whom God has predestined to be their spouse. It’s a romantic notion. But there’s a danger in this mindset since the only One we are truly destined for is our Lord.

What You Don’t Know Really Can Hurt You

He explores the impact of personal history, particularly how our sexual history can affect our relationships. He attempts to address all of the other baggage that growing up in post-sexual revolution culture brings with it.

Other chapters break down the common marriage styles, helping the reader to do a little introspection and consider what’s really important in a relationship. It’s not about finding someone who is exactly like you, but someone who is compatible.

There is a whole chapter dedicated to the importance of mutually agreed upon gender roles. It’s an issue that can completely derail a relationship, especially in Christian circles, if not agreed upon.

He is also unafraid to address the raw, biological forces that come into play with attraction and romance. Too many pastors, Christian psychologists, and writers foolishly shy away from this topic. While he isn’t a scientist, I admire his willingness to recognize and discuss the significance biology plays in affection and love.

I could go on and on since this book is full of little gold nuggets but you should check it for yourself. It’s quick, yet powerful read.
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If the singular objective of the book was to minimize the risk of divorce, I find it a wild success
Reviewed in the United States on October 20, 2015
I’ll start by saying that I agree wholeheartedly with the premise of the book, that the “why” of marriage (“seek first the kingdom of God...”) matters as much if not more than the “who”. Thomas sounds a loud warning to all singles about the pitfalls of choosing a spouse... See more
I’ll start by saying that I agree wholeheartedly with the premise of the book, that the “why” of marriage (“seek first the kingdom of God...”) matters as much if not more than the “who”. Thomas sounds a loud warning to all singles about the pitfalls of choosing a spouse poorly, and he provides a thorough list of fundamental and secondary factors that should be considered in this search. I can appreciate that Thomas is attempting to grab the attention of singles who may be casually or not very intentionally approaching the search, and awaken them to points they may have neglected to consider. If the singular objective of the book was to minimize the risk that a reader would blindly stumble into a marriage destined for divorce, I find it a wild success.

That said, I believe the book (and its readers) would have benefited from greater acknowledgment that there is no “perfect” person who excels all the time at all the qualifications identified by Thomas. Thomas tends to present each quality or characteristic as “must haves” with little room for compromise. I did not find a lot of grace in the book for the daily failures and shortcomings that we all experience. And while perhaps this should have been inferred by the reader, I believe it should have been emphasized and repeated. Speaking first hand, the concept of testing your spouse, even up to the wedding day, can be destructive if taken too far or handled too legalistically.
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Indiana
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Biblically-based, right on target
Reviewed in the United States on May 12, 2017
EXCELLENT resource for singles of any age, whether never-married, widows, widowers or divorced contemplating remarriage!! Gary Thomas'' writing style makes this rich book easy to read and he often writes as though speaking to the reader in a friendly, personal way. It is... See more
EXCELLENT resource for singles of any age, whether never-married, widows, widowers or divorced contemplating remarriage!! Gary Thomas'' writing style makes this rich book easy to read and he often writes as though speaking to the reader in a friendly, personal way. It is full of very thoughtful and wise reflections and advice based on his years of experience working with people. The book is right on target, in my estimation, about what any Christian should consider when looking for a husband or wife for a solid, committed marriage. It confirmed many of my own thoughts. While Amazon Prime is fast, I downloaded this book and devoured it in a couple days. This should be in every pastor''s office or church library. It would be a helpful resource for grief counselors as well, to recommend to those folks who have managed their way through grief after the death of a husband or wife and at the appropriate time feel ready to move on. If I could, I''d give this six stars!!
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Disappointing for me
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on December 7, 2020
I read another book by this author which was reasonable so I thought I would try this one. I don''t think that I am his intended audience as he warns his readers against marrying someone with a serious mental illness/health condition. I have bipolar and I actually take a...See more
I read another book by this author which was reasonable so I thought I would try this one. I don''t think that I am his intended audience as he warns his readers against marrying someone with a serious mental illness/health condition. I have bipolar and I actually take a very good care of myself. I would prefer someone who writes books like these to have/show more understanding and compassion. He is fine with physical illnesses in people. Please, if you write to a wide readership, consider your audience. This book is better suited for those who come from perfect families and want little problems in the way of ''pedigree.'' I far preferred the book Just Married by the Popcaks. While it is a Catholic take, it''s much better for me and more positive.
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Seek first God
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on November 15, 2014
This is an absolutely fabulous book. It is so refreshing to be reminded of the most important thing - in life and relationships. That call to seek first God above all else. Worth every penny of the book. How you choose your mate dramatically affects your marriage, and your...See more
This is an absolutely fabulous book. It is so refreshing to be reminded of the most important thing - in life and relationships. That call to seek first God above all else. Worth every penny of the book. How you choose your mate dramatically affects your marriage, and your future children''s future. Don''t settle for compromise in this area. If two people are not already seeking God first above all else in singleness, marriage isn''t going to fix that. Pursue God faithfully all the days of your life for the beauty of who He is, not merely in an attempt to capture a spouse. Our churches, our homes and our society would be so much more effective if Christians didn''t shy away from first applying these principles in their own lives, and then in their approach to relationships and marriage.
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Shirelle Charles
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Thoroughly enjoyed it
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on February 26, 2020
I really enjoyed this book. It completely changed my thinking about dating and marriage. I have been telling everyone I know to read it because i think it would bless them. Im not only thinking about the kind of marriage I want but also the kind of spouse I want to be.
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Must-read for Christian singles
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on August 16, 2016
Amazing book. It was a complete eye-opener for me. I recommended it for a couple of friends and they all found it useful. Lots of times, I had to take short breaks and ponder on what I had read, it is the most impactful pre-marriage book I have read.
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FANTASTIC
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on December 28, 2013
A very good book tackling dating and premarital matters, the advice Gary gives is very useful. I wish many of us knew or read this book before going out dating or settling down with the wrong people. I would highly recommend this book to anyone just dating or even not in a...See more
A very good book tackling dating and premarital matters, the advice Gary gives is very useful. I wish many of us knew or read this book before going out dating or settling down with the wrong people. I would highly recommend this book to anyone just dating or even not in a dating relationship but looking actively. Many helpful tips and questions to reflect on. Excellent book, the best i have read in a long time and practical with a christian slant in most chapters.
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